Are you feeling shamed to ride?
Acceptance doesn't mean resignation. There's a lot of shaming in the world. Have you noticed that? Body shaming, personality shaming, and even, believe it or not, shame for people who own horses but don't ride them.
"I know, right?"
Let me be another voice for those out there who feel shamed about not riding. It's okay. In fact, most horses prefer it! Here's what a horse needs: Food, water, shelter, hoof and health care, social interactions, and positive experiences. Can you offer those things without riding? Absolutely!
Who cares if someone thinks you should ride and you don't feel up to it! Don't let your horse down by not interacting just because you can't or don't want to ride. Get out there and just "be" with your horse. Enjoy nature for heaven's sake.
So accept your feelings a bit, accept your position, accept your experience, and don't hate on yourself for not living up to someone else's idea of what you're supposed to be or do.
Just one little caveat on the word "accept." I feel like people often think that if you accept the way things are now, you are resigning to that new norm and you'll never again be able to do things you used to be able to do. But the truth is, accepting something means giving yourself some grace, not giving up on your dreams! If you want to ride, believe it will happen again for you, but don't pressure yourself. Just breathe, think positively about yourself and your current experiences and slowly move in the direction you want to go. It's the same for your horse. If she's struggling to get something, relax a little. It will come.
I've helped many people recover (including myself) from setbacks. In the beginning it feels like you'll never have what you had. But you have to shake loose of those feelings and just accept what is. "It is what it is, right?" Gotta thank my friend Patty for that phrase! Then... look at where you want to go and take one small step toward it. Don't focus on what you've lost or you'll go crazy. Focus on your footwork. Take a step, breathe, reward yourself, then take another step. It won't be long before your acceptance turns to progress and pride of accomplishment.
In short, don't give up on what you want, but also give yourself enormous doses of grace, every single day! Grace is that acceptance of things you didn't plan for. Give yourself that gift. Trust me, it will pay off in big ways.
Thanks for reading and please comment below and share with your friends.
Don Jessop
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Lyla Spencer
I just got around to reading this article and you know how I feel Don!!! So many of the above comments fit me as well. Love the Liberty and ground play and as you know I will ease myself into the saddle when Silver and I are ready. Just love being with him, such wonderful therapy for the both of us. Yes, thanks for a well written article!
Darlene Yudell
Thanks for this Don. I find equal happiness riding, doing groundwork, grooming, listening to their munching and just being in the presence of my horses, hanging out in the pasture . But I have often felt ashamed of myself for not doing more riding because the first thing people seem to ask about is the riding. When my answer is ‘well, i do some riding, but i play with my horse and hang out and work on my relationship’ it seems they don’t place as much value in that response. I even had someone comment that I ‘coddled’ my horse when I told them that I had to know they were ready for me to ride before I got on. I have friends who compete frequently, but I don’t. I spend my time doing different things. I’ve done some Garrocha, obstacles, ranch and trail. Now I am going to give mounted shooting a try. I want a versatile horse that wants to be with me and isn’t bored. But I also want them to find peace with me around. That takes work on the relationship and that means not continuously feeling like I must ride. Thanks for letting me share this.
Leigh Ann Erdman
Thank you for this story. I rode a lot and then I started to care for my mother, while juggling a military career. After she died, I finished my military career and started a second one in emergency management. COVID hit, my job as a hospital emergency manager went non-stop for 796 days and suddenly, I am going on 14 years without riding. I spend hours in the barn with my horses. It is my sanctuary, and my horses and donkeys are well-loved and well-cared for, but I often feel guilty for keeping them under-employed. Thanks for putting it back into perspective.
Elaine Schultz
One of the best columns I have read, Don. Thank-you. And of course, like so many insightful articles, the valid points it makes apply to many, many areas of our lives.
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Eric Jones
July 21, 2022
Hello, my name’s Eric and I just ran across your website at masteryhorsemanship.com…
I found it after a quick search, so your SEO’s working out…
Content looks pretty good…
One thing’s missing though…
A QUICK, EASY way to connect with you NOW.
Because studies show that a web lead like me will only hang out a few seconds – 7 out of 10 disappear almost instantly, Surf Surf Surf… then gone forever.
I have the solution:
Talk With Web Visitor is a software widget that’s works on your site, ready to capture any visitor’s Name, Email address and Phone Number. You’ll know immediately they’re interested and you can call them directly to TALK with them – literally while they’re still on the web looking at your site.
CLICK HERE https://boostleadgeneration.com to try out a Live Demo with Talk With Web Visitor now to see exactly how it works and even give it a try… it could be huge for your business.
Plus, now that you’ve got that phone number, with our new SMS Text With Lead feature, you can automatically start a text (SMS) conversation pronto… which is so powerful, because connecting with someone within the first 5 minutes is 100 times more effective than waiting 30 minutes or more later.
The new text messaging feature lets you follow up regularly with new offers, content links, even just follow up notes to build a relationship.
Everything I’ve just described is extremely simple to implement, cost-effective, and profitable.
CLICK HERE https://boostleadgeneration.com to discover what Talk With Web Visitor can do for your business, potentially converting up to 100X more eyeballs into leads today!
Eric
PS: Talk With Web Visitor offers a FREE 14 days trial – and it even includes International Long Distance Calling.
You have customers waiting to talk with you right now… don’t keep them waiting.
CLICK HERE https://boostleadgeneration.com to try Talk With Web Visitor now.
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